the good and bad of friendship

"Love allows understanding to dawn, and understanding is precious. Where you are understood, you are at home. Understanding nourishes belonging. When you really feel understood, you feel free to release yourself into the trust and shelter of the other person’s soul."

--John O'Donohue

Friendship is an amazing thing. it can take you to heights amazing and places you thought you'd never see or leave you alone at the shores of life. it can crash against the waves of a storm or sail smoothly on into the horizon. it affects each and every person on this planet whether we choose it to or not. even the meaning of friendship and its importance touches every aspect of our lives. check out some of the words of an old school jam by Whodini a rap group from the 1980's...

Friends

How many of us have them?

Friends

Ones we can depend on

Friends

How many of us have them?

Friends

Before we go any further, lets be

Friends*

Is a word we use everyday

Most the time we use it in the wrong way

Now you can look the word up, again and again

But the dictionary doesn't know the meaning of friends

And if you ask me, you know, I couldn't be much help

Because a friend is somebody you judge for yourself

Some are OK, and they treat you real cool

But some mistake kindness for bein' a fool

We like to be with some, because they're funny

Others come around when they need some money

Some you grew up with, around the way

And you're still real close too this very day

Homeboys through the Summer, Winter, Spring and Fall

And then there's some we wish we never knew at all

And this list goes on, again and again

But these are the people that we call friends

Appreciate the good friends you have and hold the memories sacred. those friendships that did not work are stepping stones in your life. blow away all the debris surrounding them and then place them at your feet and use the lessons you learned from them to help you in your other friendships to help them become better than ever.