healthy self-love

here are two of my favorite affirmations...

i am open to giving and receiving love and therefore i am giving and receiving love

i am in happy, healthy, loving, harmonious relationships because i attract happy, healthy, loving, harmonious relationships.

the affirmations didn't start out that way. they got longer as i thought about what i was saying. it is not enough to love, one must give and receive. then i realized one cannot give and receive love is one is not open. similarly one cannot be in a good relationship if one does not first attract a good relationship. maybe it is my obsessive thinking but that is how my affirmations got so long.

anyway...i thought about them today as i read a blog about how to leave bad relationships of any and all types. the blogger said the ability to leave stems from the ability to properly love yourself. she said it is a matter of choice. you choose to love yourself. then you choose to love yourself enough to realize you are not in a good relationship. then you love yourself enough to realize you show yourself love by leaving a bad relationship. all of these realizations start off as choices you make. it is a step-by-step process but it works. it starts with self-love.

now there are all kinds of self love just as there are all kinds of love. i am talking about healthy self-love. life is full of choices, some easy and some difficult. when stuck it is always best to allow healthy self-love to shape your choice. healthy self-love ... it is always the place to start. if you don't love yourself in a healthy way, how can you love anyone else in a healthy way. love should always be happy and healthy

so...whatever is going on in your world, start with gratitude. then check to see if you are operating from a place of healthy self-love. if not, work on it. i work on it everyday. we...i...spend way too much of my day complaining about me. i sometimes wish my mind was on automatic, life-affirming thoughts. but it doesn't seem to work that way. you...i...gotta work on it...daily (lol).

if you are operating from a place of self-love. that is a beginning. when you start there, you give out healthy love vibes and begin to receive lots of healthy love. that allow you to attract happy, healthy, loving, harmonious relationships. attraction allows you to choose the relationships you want to have and, since self-love will be the basis of your choice, the relationships you choose will be happy, healthy, loving and harmonious as well.  

it is all a process. anyway...i just wanted to share my thoughts with you on self-love and how it works. or, at least, how i think it should work. i don't always get it right but i am always trying. here's to healthy self-love, healthy love and healthy relationships. and here's to you. remember to always take care of you :)